Soulful Spotlight: Meeting the Self-Judgmental Part With Love

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “Who does she think she is?” while you’re half-doom-scrolling, half-avoiding your own next post? In Episode 47 of Vibrant Visibility, Jessica and I cracked that judgment wide open—and turned it into rocket fuel for real, resonant visibility. Below is the deep-dive blog version, perfect for bookmarking on those days your Inner Critic feels extra chatty.

The Inner Judge Shows Up—Loud and Protective

Jessica’s sticking point sounded familiar:

• Judgment of others (“She only has 300 followers—why is she going Live?”)

• Fear of being seen as a fraud until a certain follower count magically appears

• Tension in the body—for her, a buzzing at the crown of the head

Rather than scold the Judge, we invited her in for tea. Judgment isn’t random; she guards the tender parts that crave safety and belonging.

A Two-Part Visualization: Jeans-and-Tee Judge Meets Flowy-Dress Higher Self

1. Higher Self—standing tall in a breezy sundress, radiating peace and joy.

2. Inner Judge—jeans, tee, arms crossed, cloud of scarcity overhead.

When they finally spoke, the Judge confessed:

“You’re only allowed to show up when you have proof you’re successful.”

Higher Self wrapped her in a hug, whispering,

“Service and joy are our metrics. The numbers will follow.”

Watching Jessica breathe that in, the buzzing at her crown softened.

Somatic Check-Ins: Where Does the Story Land in Your Body?

• Notice the physical cue (tight chest, buzzing scalp, clenched jaw).

• Place a palm there; breathe until the sensation shifts.

• Ask: “What protective job are you doing for me right now?”

Nine times out of ten, the body relaxes once it feels heard.

Micro-Moves that Melt Self-Judgment

Voice-Note Journaling

Open your phone, hit record, and ramble for five minutes. Zero audience, zero polish. Repeat daily until “I don’t know what to say” stops running the show.

Visibility Sprints

Week 1: one unscripted Story.
Week 2: two playful posts, no filters, no scripts.
Compound from there—confidence loves small, frequent wins.

Reframe on Loop

“I never have to earn the space I take up online.”

Tattoo it on your brain.

Re-casting Judgment as a Loyal Protector

Your Judge isn’t a villain—she’s a bouncer making sure your tender purpose doesn’t get trampled. Thank her, reassure her, and remind her that present-tense service outweighs follower counts every single time.

Want Company on the Journey?

• Waitlist for Vibrant Visibility (doors open in Fall 2025) – early-bird bonuses inside.

• Free Somatic Check-In Worksheet – ten minutes to feel safer being seen.
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Your Turn

What tiny, totally doable action will you take this week to let your real voice peek out—an unfiltered Story, a messy carousel draft, a five-minute voice note? Drop it in the comments so we can cheer you on—what’s first on your list?